ONE WORD FOR WIFE BEATER

ONE WORD FOR WIFE BEATER

By Fashina Muyiwa Julius 

A wife beater is not just a failure or a coward but an “Animal in human skin” that should be kept in the zoo, a man who claimed to love his wife will never beat his wife for any reason. To start with what is marriage a dictionary put it as “the legally or formally recognized “UNION OF TWO PEOPLE AS PARTNERS” however, A commonly accepted and encompassing definition of marriage is the following: a formal union, social and legal contract between two individuals that “UNITES THEIR LIVES LEGALLY, ECONOMICALLY, AND EMOTIONALLY”. I am not talking about religion here, but common sense in 21st epoch.

There are identified basic types of relationships, i.e.: 

• Marital relationships.

• Family relationships.

• Friendships.

• Acquaintances.

• Work relationships.

• Situational relationships (sometimes called "situationships")

You may have been or be in any of the relationship mentioned above,  but there is none that does not have its own flaws, but assault is not an option for resolution.

Your wife is a critical and crucial better half, she is not just your partner in that relationship but your life because you have both come together to unite your lives to live as one, so she deserves to be respected. Kindly recall that your commitment as a husband is to love her and to protect her at all times, it is an insane situation to beat and assault the same person you have a responsibility to protect. I do not understand and can never understand why conflict resolution should be resolved through assault, it is not comical but ridiculous and barbaric.

Misunderstanding or Conflict in a relationship is inevitable but your ability to be civil at amicably resolving it is crucial, what are you teaching your children if you beat or assault their mother, do you understand the psychological impact of that barbaric behavior in them? No true child will be happy to see or hear their father beat their mother. It is unacceptable; it is a barbaric and wicked act.

Imagine seeing your father beating your own mother right in your presence, how will you feel, will you love your father for that? Even if your own father did that to your mother while you are growing up, does it make you happy and is it commendable? Aside from the fact that it is barbaric, beating your wife is beating yourself and psychologically and emotionally traumatizing your own Children. Say no to wife beating today. 

If you read this and do not feel sorry if you have ever beaten your wife, then you are an Animal in Human skin, and you should be kept in the Zoo. 

Thank you

WAKE UP YORUBA YOUTHS

WAKE UP YORUBA YOUTHS

THE PLOY OF HATERS TO CRIPPLE LAGOS STATE AND THE SOUTH WEST IS AROUND THE CORNER 

 

There is no doubt that things are so hard in the Country in view of Insecurity, Kidnapping, Unemployment, Educational decadent, Ritualism, High cost of living and so on. Every State and Citizen passes through the same unpleasant hurdles without spearing anyone throughout the Federating Units and no one is left out.

 

We are all in the struggle together because we desire good governance and better Nigeria, suffice is to state that some of us are sincerely imagining what could be the future of our Children. Some of us have actually lost hope in this country, some are trying to believe, while some actually believe that things will get better.

 

It is imperative to state that two wrongs can never make a right, the Yorubas will say “Ori bibe ko ni ogun Ori fifo” (to behead a person is not an antidote to his headache). I have noticed with dismay how some lethargic, dull and unreasoning Yoruba youths will allow themselves to be used against their own very region (South West) all in the name of protest. I believe that protest should be a means or an avenue to make our voices heard, targeted at making conditions of life better and not to create hardship and destroy infrastructural amenities that will later hamper our conditions of life.

 

On 29th of June, 2016, over 14 BRT buses were vandalized at Maryland bus stop along Ikorodu Road after an accident involving a BRT bus and a street hawker. You will also recall the protest which morphed from social media campaigns into street demonstrations in October 2020, which was triggered by the excesses of the Special Anti-Robbery Squad (SARS), a now-disbanded police tactical unit notorious for cruelty against crime suspects. 

 

Just like yesterday, I still remember how Ojodu Berger and Oyingbo BRT terminals were attacked and razed with several buses burnt beyond repair, the properties destroyed were put at N3.9 Billion, mostly belonging to the state government and a few private individuals. Organized groups (vandals) were at the headquarters of Television Continental (TVC) in Lagos to perpetuate at act of arson.

 

Now, who bears the brunt of the destruction? The President who is tagged “father of the Country” does not come from the South-West, let alone Lagos State, so why is Lagos State the target?

 

On Monday 4th of April, 2022, some youths staged a protest and barricaded the Lagos-Ibadan expressway. The protesters made bonfires on both sides of the road around the Berger area, preventing free vehicular movement along roads linking to the expressway. They also displayed banners with the inscription: “Questions for Politicians and Religious Leaders”. What is the Future of Nigeria? All highways in Nigeria will be [ blocked]. No movement nationwide’. During the protest, they urged motorists and passers-by to support them. My question is why must Lagos and South West be targeted at all times? Why not another state outside the south west. Which other highway in any other State was blocked during this particular protest?

 

I was chatting on Facebook where some sets of people from other parts of the Country were calling for another protest in Lagos State, I came in between and suggested a state from the South East. Most people in the group castigated me with abuses for that singular statement, just because they understood the aftermath effect and the consequences of staging a protest in any State.

 

Wake-up Youths of South-West, stand against double jeopardy. We cannot experience all these issues and our properties are destroyed. Why are some people quick at “let’s go and destroy Lagos State”? But do not pray for such in their own state. Wakeup the articulate, reasonable, ever dynamic Yoruba Youth and say no to violent, say no to destruction of Infrastructural Amenities” meant for us and our children.  

 

Thank you

 

Fashina Muyiwa Julius 

Fash270@gmail.com